How can you create close, authentic connections with others? Here are some questions to help you build intimacy with Enneagram 1s, 4s, and 7s.

What is the most significant thing you’ve ever changed your mind about?
How do society’s morals differ from your own?
What book dramatically changed your life?
What behaviors or traits in another person really drain your energy, and why?
When was the last time you took a risk that paid off?

What have you lost that you would like to find?
What difficult or painful experience would you recommend to everyone?
What is the most stable part of your identity today, and what is the part that’s most in flux?
Do you have any superstitions?
What is something that’s meaningful and noticeable to you in the world that you wish more people would recognize?

What relatively common experience have you never had?
If you had to get a tattoo, what would you get and where would you put it?
What are you currently working through that people don’t see?
Would you prefer to date someone 20 IQ points higher or 5 points lower than you?
How will our culture change most in the next 100 years?